On Working Mothers


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A brief look at why mothers may or may not want to work outside the home from a Christian Perspective.

Many mothers attempt to find a compromising balance between working at home while their children are preschool age and reentering the workforce when their children reach school age. Some mothers, especially single mothers and divorced mothers, must remain in the work force in order for their families to be financially secure. The proverbs 31 woman was an industrious woman who bought and planted a field, and who made linen girdles and sold them in the market place. Lydia, the seller of purple spoken of in Acts 16, evidently balanced her career and family life, with the spiritual well being of her family of highest priority. When a Christian woman considers her place in a very materialistic society, she should always let the Holy Spirit guide her decision whether or not to enter the work force.

The question that mothers must answer for their own peace of mind is whether or not she is choosing to work for her family’s benefit or is it purely for her own selfish motives or the selfish motives of her family. Another question a mother may ask herself, if she believes she is working for her family’s benefit, is whether she is working for her family’s true needs or is she working for the bigger house and newer car. If her husband’s income is sufficient for her family’s needs, it may be that she simply needs an outlet for her personal creative energy and her waning self-image. There are many volunteer positions available that can fill this unmet need in a woman’s life, when she finds an excess of time and energy on her hands. Many women decide to pursue or complete their own education at this point in their lives.

Any mother with preschool children should prayerfully consider the effect on her young children before entering the work force. She must make important decisions like in whom she will entrust her children; and whether leaving them to enter the workforce would be more beneficial or detrimental to her young family. If she does decide to enter the job market, she will have to decide whether leaving her children with an individual or a daycare in her absence would be in the best interest of her children. Many churches provide daycare options and there are also individuals within the church setting that may provide the needed services.

Though it is ideal that mothers of preschoolers be able to remain home with their little ones, in an imperfect world this is not always possible. Christian mothers who find that they must reenter the workforce must carefully and prayerfully consider her options, while trusting God to help her make the right decisions for her family’s well-being. When a woman works outside the home based on need and not on self-serving desires, and if God’s will is always her top priority, she can rest assured that she is doing the right thing for her family and need not feel guilty about her decision.

A Christian woman should always consider the desires of her family, yet determine to let the will of God be her ultimate authority. She should be truly led of the Holy Spirit in her decision, whether to enter the paid work force for the financial stability of her family, to take on a volunteer position in her church or community, or to remain solely on the home front. Furthermore, she should never let a helpless or lazy attitude in her family control her decision; because they inevitably would rather that mom stayed home, while continuing to do everything for them. She must decide whether her family will genuinely suffer for her absence, or whether she will simply be untying the apron strings of dependence on her by helping them to become more mature self-sufficient individuals. Nor should a mother be pushed into the work force against her will and better judgment by a materialistic husband or a selfish family who simply desires the added income for pleasure pursuits. When a mother enters the workforce, she should ultimately make the decision herself with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Though all mothers are working mothers and desire what is best for their families, those who choose to work only at home deserve the same respect as those who choose to work outside the home. Christian working mothers, whether homebound or in the workforce, should not be judgmental of each other, but should always strive to understand and respect the others’ choices.

 

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I am a mother of eight wonderful children and five grandkids, of whom I am very proud. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. I have endeavored to paraphrase the Bible, both Old and New Testaments, for the last ten years or so and am working on a final edit, now. It is my hope that it will be of some use in the great commission of Christ. My ministry is primarily geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community around the world. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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2 Responses to On Working Mothers

  1. Reblogged this on Go Fish Ministries, Inc and commented:

    With the recent school shooting in Connecticut, I think mothers who work need to take another look at why they are working and determine whether it is truly for the benefit of their families. I wonder if the young man who murdered all those children and the others was simply trying to get his mothers attention and lashed out at those he believed took her away from him. Why else would he have went to her class after he had murdered his mother. He was angry that they took her attention away from him and may have believed she loved them more than she loved him. If that was the case then it is very sad indeed for all concerned. I pray for the families who were devastated by this tragedy. I want to understand how a young man could do such a thing, and I know that truly we are all born in sin and without Christ we might just do those same kinds of things. But I would just caution mothers to re-examine why they choose to work outside the home and is it a necessity or for some other reason.

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  2. Pingback: An Essay on Motherhood | Go Fish Ministries, Inc

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