Are You Mom Enough? Yes, I Am!


Are You Mom Enough? Yes, I Am!

 

The question was recently asked on the cover of Time Magazine, “Are you Mom enough?” The illustration on the cover was of a mother breastfeeding her 3 year old son.  I found this refreshing to say the least! An article actually celebrating motherhood!

Motherhood to me was not just a small portion of my life.  It was my life for many years!  I spent the better portion of my life either pregnant, breastfeeding, or both.  From 1983-2006 I was in the mother mode.  It was rare if I had a month or two that I was not doing one or the other of those mothering tasks.

Over the years I birthed eight beautiful children into this world, and nursed each of them until they weaned on their own, some with more encouragement than others! God said, “Be fruitful and multiply” and I took Him at His word!  The shortest time period I nursed a baby was 9 months.  I got pregnant again and the baby weaned himself at that time.  The longest I’ve nursed a baby was 5+ years and it was the most stressful and precious time in my life. He was my last child and I enjoyed every minute of it.  I still miss those days sometimes, when I could make everything all better just by cuddling and nursing my children. Life is much tougher, for both them and me, now that their grown up.

And don’t think that my life was easy and that I didn’t need to work, and that I had a supportive husband, and all that!  For many of those years I was in a domestic violence relationship, and during the time just before having my last two children, I had entered college again after being a stay-at-home Mom for many years – Just in-case I had to support my family.

I was three months pregnant with my seventh child when I entered school again and arranged my classes around my nursing schedule when I had the baby.  I took two morning classes, went home for lunch to nurse the baby, and then took an afternoon class.  The baby never missed a nursing and I managed to get through my undergraduate degree.  Three years later, just as I was finishing that degree, I got pregnant again and managed to nurse that one through night classes for my graduate degree.  After the last baby was born I left my husband due to continued domestic abuse.

So as you can see, no, I didn’t have it easy, my husband wasn’t very supportive, and I did need an income.  But motherhood was and still is my priority!  It’s how God designed us mothers to be.  Work is sometimes necessary in the fallen world that we live in, but you can’t tell me, “I can’t nurse my baby, because I have to work.”  Most employers will allow you the time you need to pump your milk or breastfeed your baby, but if not, you can always take a lunch break like I did and either go to your baby or have someone meet you with your baby if that would save time.

In any case, motherhood should be our priority, at least in the years when our children need us the most.  Then if we need to focus on other parts of our lives we can.  I remember pulling a few all-nighters, trying to finish a college paper on schedule, while nursing a baby in one arm and typing with the other hand.  This was not ideal, but necessary at the time.  And my baby still got what he needed from me!  So if you ask me the question, “Are you Mom enough?” I’d smile a knowing smile, and proudly say, “Yes, I am!”

Mom of 8: Parenting Little People

June 29, 2012

About mamaheartfilled

I am a mother of eight wonderful children and three grandkids, who I am very proud of. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. My ministry is geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community, and that I have been called to the homeland mission field of North America. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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