Domestic Violence: Parent Abuse


I just experienced a night of Hell at the hands of my 20 year old son, who physically hit me several times and verbally abused me, for leaving their father for domestic abuse!  He believes I should have stayed and just took it! But I know if I had done that, someone would have wound up dead, most likely me. My son is very angry and refuses to accept that his anger is out of control. Today I did some research on parent abuse and found an interesting website or two that may be helpful to others. So here are the links

http://loupurplefairy.hubpages.com/hub/The-Silent-Suffering-of-Parent-Abuse-When-Children-Abuse-Parents

http://www.internetjournalofcriminology.com/Holt_Parent_Abuse_Nov_09.pdf

Domestic Violence Page

I am trying to make some decisions on what should be done so I covet your prayers.  Experiencing 20 years or so of Domestic Abuse from my husband was bad enough, and now I have to go though this all over again.  But I have more options than I did then.  I am trying to make godly decisions and not reactionary ones.  Please pray for me.  God bless to all.

About mamaheartfilled

I am a mother of eight wonderful children and five grandkids, of whom I am very proud. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. I have endeavored to paraphrase the Bible, both Old and New Testaments, for the last ten years or so and am working on a final edit, now. It is my hope that it will be of some use in the great commission of Christ. My ministry is primarily geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community around the world. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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2 Responses to Domestic Violence: Parent Abuse

  1. Laura says:

    If your son witnessed this for a great portion of his life, then he will have a hard time NOT being that way. It’s somewhat ingrained and he will have to make effort to be normal. Don’t blame yourself. Clearly, you’ll need some solid boundaries and distance.
    Do you know of a book written by a sergeant lieutenant in Wisconsin, within the past five years, that talks in depth about the proper attitudes that should be given by the church towards domestic violence? I read it and really liked it, but I forgot what it is and can’t find it online.
    I would like to give this book to my christian pastor counselor, the one that believes I exert negative control in my marriage.
    Afraid, I am living with my emotionally abusive parents to avoid him, with my six month old. a POW camp would be a refuge, it seems. At least then I wouldn’t have to worry about what to eat, make decision and smile at the right times. Well, maybe not with a baby.

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    • Yes, it’s true that my son witnessed some of the abuses I experienced but even after I left the household he stayed with his dad, who made it all seem to them like it was my fault. He has a lot of anger to work out because I left, even though my door was always open to them. But I will not let this happen again. I went to the PD to see what my options were. I chose not to file charges this time, but I will if he does this again, regardless of the consequences. I don’t know of the book, but i sure would be interested to read it if you find it. Let me know. Take care of yourself too. Do what you can to get out on your own. I know it’s hard. I’ll pray for you. God bless!

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