A Kids’Anger and the Golden Rule

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A Kids’Anger and the Golden Rule


Often kids miss the meaning of the golden rule, “You should do to others as you want others to do to you.” It does not say to do to others as they do to you, but as you would like them to do to you.  We should treat others, as we want to be treated, with love and respect for our feelings and body.  One of the first things we learn in life is that we cannot strike back at everyone who hurts us. We all get our feelings hurt from time to time. Sometimes others may treat us harshly when they say angry words to us or call us hurtful names. Sometimes, no matter what we do, some people will be angry.  Often their anger is just looking for someone to strike at.  Sometimes even our bodies are hurt when someone hits or hurts us in other ways. We all get angry at times and this is OK.  But what is not OK, is when we let our’s or someone else’s uncontrolled anger hurt other people or ourselves.  This is the bad kind of anger. There are times when others may be rightfully angry at us.  If we call someone a hurtful name or use other abusive words or actions toward them, then they may become angry at us for a right reason.  When we tell someone we are angry at them without using hurtful words and behaviors, we are protecting their feelings and our own.  We can use statements like “I am angry at you because I don’t like it when you. . . ” or “I feel mad because I need you to. . .” It is good to tell others about our anger this way.  How would you finish these statements? If we learn to tell others about our anger in this way, rather than in a wrong way then we can understand what makes us angry and help others to see that too.  Then we can try to fix the problem that caused our anger.  If we keep our anger hidden from others, then sooner or later all that stored up anger will explode like a volcano in uncontrolled angry outbursts.  This will hurt others and us. It takes a lot of energy to keep hiding anger, so our minds and bodies get tired of holding it in.  We may have nightmares, wet the bed, soil our underpants, get stomachaches, throw up, and get sick in other ways a lot.  We may feel afraid, worried, and angry inside.  We may even do things to ourselves like pulling our own hair out or trying to hurt ourselves in other ways.  If we find someone we can trust with our anger, then we can help our mind and body to feel better.  We can go to our parents, grandparents, Sunday school teachers, pastors, school teachers, doctors, nurses, or any one else we feel we can trust.  Sometimes it may feel hard to trust anyone, but we can usually trust others to do what is best for us.  Most people want to help us, even if some people do hurt us.  If one person doesn’t help or is hurting us, then we can find someone else who will help us.  We should never let our anger hurt others, nor should we let another person’s anger hurt us.  If we don’t want to be hurt by others angry words and actions, then we should try not to hurt others with our angry words and actions.  God’s words in the Bible tells us that we should love God and love others just as we love ourselves.  We love God partly by showing our love for others. We show others we love them, by not letting our words and actions be hurtful, but by being helpful instead.  And we can show others that we love ourselves enough to not let their anger hurt us. We can do this by telling others when they are hurting us and by telling someone else if they won’t stop hurting us. Be kind and tenderhearted to one another and forgive each other as God in Christ forgives each of us.  Eph. 4:32


About mamaheartfilled

I am a mother of eight wonderfully challenging children and nine grandkids, of whom I am very proud. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. I have endeavored to paraphrase the Bible, both Old and New Testaments, for the last ten years or so and am working on a final edit, now. It is my hope that it will be of some use in the great commission of Christ. My ministry is primarily geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community around the world. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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