October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Have you ever had a gun put to your head? Have you ever had your abdomen kicked at when pregnant? Punched in the face? Had your car keys hid? Screamed at, cursed at, or otherwise physically or verbally abused? If so, you know what it’s like to experience your own fear factor. October is awareness of domestic violence month. It’s a time to recognize that victims of domestic violence beat their own fear factor everyday they manage to stay alive.
Abusers thrive on creating fear in their victims, sometimes in physical ways like punching and kicking, and other times with intimidation tactics like punching the air or walls very near the victim. Creating fear is what gives them their control over the victim. Once an abuser has control over his victim, he can pretty much do whatever he wants to. But if the victim realizes that it is the fear that gives him control, she can gain control back for herself.
She can choose not to show her fear and stand up to the overgrown bully, sometimes risking further abuse, but oftentimes gaining back some of the power she had lost. She can choose to leave the premises as soon as possible when an attack is imminent or has already occurred, limiting the abusers access to her person. She can choose to not go back until he seeks counseling and she sees the fruits of repentance.
Victims of abuse can become survivors, if they have the guts to do what it takes to get control back over their lives. After all, abusers can’t do anything to their victims that they and God doesn’t allow. God may allow us to flounder in situations of our own making for a time, but God doesn’t want us to suffer needlessly. When we seek God, God will show us how to get ourselves and our children in a safer situation. But we must be willing to act on whatever God tells us to do.
God’s Word tells us that women may leave their husbands and live as unmarried (separated) until such time that they may come back together. Many theologians would go further and say that physical abuse is cause for divorce, since the husband has abandoned the wife both emotionally and physically, in the sense that he has endangered her welfare. God’s Word gives us options, and we can make a choice to not be abused any longer.
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God doesn’t allow unrepentant sinners into His presence, and we as God’s children do not have to allow unrepentant sinners into our own presence. When an abuser keeps on abusing, even after saying he’s sorry and asking forgiveness, then he is unrepentant. Repentance is a change of heart that results in a change of behavior. God, nor Jesus, ever forced anyone to do anything, so being abused is not being submissive, nor is abusing someone a legitimate Christian behavior.
If you or someone you love is being abused, make sure she knows what God’s Word says about this situation. Give her some Biblical options, if she is hesitant to leave her spouse due to her religious beliefs. She doesn’t have to leave him permanently if she is willing to put in many hours of prayer, sometimes years of prayer. But she doesn’t have to remain in an unsafe place either. With God’s help, she can overcome the fear factor!