When Children Abuse Children


A young two year old toddler was raped in Memphis, but as bad as that is, those who raped her aren’t really at fault. The girl’s attackers were just boys themselves, only 7 and 9 years old. Children this age shouldn’t even know what rape is. Someone is to blame, but it’s not them. When children are exposed to graphic pornography or child sexual abuse themselves, they learn these acts and repeat the behavior.  Approximately one third of all children who are abused in some way, become abusers themselves.

These boys don’t need punishment, but they do need strong guidance and counseling to be able to deal with whatever they’ve been exposed to.  They need to find out what these boys have been exposed to that would make them commit this crime against another child. They need to find out who exposed these children to the images or acts and put the perpetrator behind bars.  The adult is always responsible for the sexual abuse of a child, being capable of making responsible choices.

Of all the perpetrators of CSA that I know of, all of them were abused themselves at a young age and later became abusers themselves.  But as adults they can and should be held accountable for their actions.  Children who abuse other children, on the other hand, should be given counsel and a chance to overcome their own abuse.  If it is caught early enough, many of them may not become life long pedophiles, but may find healing instead.

About mamaheartfilled

I am a mother of eight wonderful children and three grandkids, who I am very proud of. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. My ministry is geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community, and that I have been called to the homeland mission field of North America. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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One Response to When Children Abuse Children

  1. Barbara Reed says:

    I was a child that survived incredible abuse and terror. I learned how to survive but not how to live. I am now 63 years young and just published my first book, Feelings Kill(http://barbaracares.org). My story is to inspire others who are faced with seemingly ‘senseless’ abuse and injustice to rely on God and discover that His grace truly is sufficient come what may in this life. Please read and share this journey with other wounded children and adults.

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