“I’m addicted to masturbation.”
Dear Sister in Christ,
Masturbation in and of itself is not necessarily sin, but when we let it take control of our lives and let God slip from our minds, then that is when it becomes a sin. This is a hard sin to overcome, as I myself know. I battled this sin myself for some time after my separation from my husband due to domestic violence. But I can tell you, it can be overcome with God’s help.
If you are masturbating with vibrator type instruments, you may have physical health problems eventually from too much use. Your body can go into a constant state of arousal that won’t stop, which can interfere with work schedules and many other life activities. These health issues can be very serious and you should do some research on the health risks of vibrator use.
The Word of God tells us that He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins when we confess and repent (change our ways) of them. You have confessed to me, but have you confessed to Jesus? If not, get on your knees in a quiet spot right now and do so. You can pray something like this if you need help.
I am coming to you now to confess my sins of masturbation and addiction. I confess that I am powerless to stop this pattern without your help and grace. I ask that you forgive me for my sins and cleanse me from all unrighteousness. Strengthen me to do your will. If it be your will at some time in the future help me to find a godly man in which I can share the gift of sexuality. In the mean time, Lord, help me to put my self-control under God-control, so that I can overcome this addiction. Your word says to not let anything have control over us, but You, Lord, so take complete control of my life. Thank you, God, for your grace and love. Amen
Here are several Bible passages on self-control because that is what this issue is concerning most. IF you are a Christian, you’re half way there. If not, then you must get right with God first and let God help you with this sin. Read these passages and hopefully they will give you some insight into your issue. Pray for God’s help with this. Self-control is God-control! Give God control of your life and He will help you overcome the addiction to this sin.
Proverbs 5:21-23 For the ways of humanity are seen by the eyes of Yahweh, who thinks about every choice we make. The sinful will be taken by their evil habits, and controlled by their own sins. They’ll die without teaching, going astray in their great carelessness.
Proverbs 25:28 Those that have no self-control are like an unprotected city without boundaries.
Psalms 50:22-23 Now think about this, you who forget God; or I’ll tear you in pieces, and there’ll be none to save you. Whoever offers praise makes Me well-known, and all those who control their behaviors well, I, Yahweh God, will save.”
Psalm 119:132-133 Yahweh, look on me, and be merciful to me, as You used to do to those that loved Your Name. Guide my steps by Your Word, and don’t let any sin have control of me.
Acts 3:26 God, having brought back Yeshua the Christ to life, sent the Christ to you first to bless you, by turning all of you away from your uncontrolled actions.”
Romans 6:12-23 So don’t let sin reign in your human body, that you would do whatever evil it wants. Don’t let your body parts be used as tools of ungodliness to sin, but give yourselves to God, as those that are alive from the dead, and use your body parts as tools of goodness for God. Sin won’t have control over you because you aren’t under the rule of the Word of God, but under grace. What then? Will we sin, because we aren’t under the rule of the Word of God, but under grace? Never! Don’t you know, that to whom you give yourselves as workers to obey, you work for whoever you obey; whether it’s sin to death, or obedience to goodness? But God be thanked, that even though you were the workers of sin, you’ve obeyed from the heart the kind of teachings which was given you. So then, being made free from sin, you became the workers of goodness. I speak as a human being, because of the weakness of your body. Just as you’ve given your body parts as workers for evil and to sin which led to more sin; in the same way now give your body parts as workers to goodness which leads to faithfulness. When you were the workers of sin, you were free from goodness. What good did you get then from those things in which you’re now ashamed? The end result of those things is death. But now being made free from sin, and becoming workers for God, the good you do leads to faithfulness, and in the end to everlasting life. Death is the payment for sin; but the gift of God is everlasting life through Yeshua our Christ.
Give God Body and Spirit
I Cor. 6[12-20] All things are legal to me, but everything isn’t good for me. Even though everything is legal for me, I won’t be controlled by anything. Food is for the body, and the body needs food: but God will put an end to both. Now the body isn’t for sexual sin, but for God; and the body needs God. And God, who has brought Christ back to life, will also bring us back to life with great power. Don’t you know that your bodies are the members of Christ’s body? Should I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a sexually immoral person? Never! Don’t you know that whoever is joined to a sexually immoral person is one body? The Christ said, when two are joined, they will become as one body. But whoever is joined to God is one spirit. So run from sexual sin! Every sin that someone does is outside the body; but whoever takes part in sexual sin sins against their own body. Don’t you know that your body is the place of worship of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You aren’t even your own, because you were bought for a price. So give God your body, and your spirit, which are both God’s.
I Corinthians 7 [8-24] So I say to the unmarried, the widows, and the widowers, it’s good for them if they can live without being sexually active just as I do. But if they can’t control themselves, let them marry because it’s better to marry than to be continually tempted with sexual immorality.
Galations 5:20-25 Now the things that you’ve done in your natural self are clear: Adultery and other kinds of sexual sins, all kinds of evil and filthy things, worshiping other things falsely, witchcraft, hateful differences, cruel jealousy, thoughtless anger, fighting and rebellion, untruthful beliefs, envious greed and murders, drunken partying, and other things like these: of which I tell you as I’ve also told you in the past, that those who do these kinds of things won’t inherit the realm of God. But the fruits of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, helpfulness, and self-control…Those who are Christ’s have put to death what they naturally want and like in their physical bodies.
Ephesians 2 [1-7] And God has brought you back to life again, who were dead in your uncontrolled actions and sins. In the past you did this, walking in the ways of this world, for the ruler of the power of the air, the spirit that works now in those who refuse to be controlled by God. In the past, our lifestyle suited the wants of our body, fulfilling what the body and the mind wanted; and we were by nature the children of rage, just as others are now. But God, who is rich in mercy, for the great love that God has for us, even when we were dead in our sins, has brought us back to life again together with Christ, and by grace you’re saved.
Ephesians 5 [1-10] So be followers of God, as dear children; and walk in love, as Christ also has loved us, and has died for us as an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling scent. And don’t let any sexual sin, or any evil thing, or greed, be named among you, as Christians shouldn’t live this way; nor immorality, nor stupid talking, nor joking around, which aren’t right to do; but instead give thanks. You should know that no sexually immoral or evil person, nor a selfish person, or someone who worships falsely, has any part in the realm of Yeshua the Christ and of Yahweh God. Don’t let anyone mislead you with meaningless words, for because of this, the rage of God is on those who refuse to be under God’s control. So don’t take part in it along with them. You once lived in darkness, but now you live in the light of God; so walk as children of light, because the fruit of the Spirit lives in everything right, and good, and true; and proves what is acceptable to God.
II Timothy 3 [1-5] Know this also, that many dangers will come in the last days. Human beings will be lovers of their own selves, greedy for money, full of themselves, proud, speaking evil, disobedient to parents, unthankful, ungodly, without love, breaking peace, liars, without self-control, abusers, haters of what’s good, spies, impulsive, self-righteous, lovers of pleasure more than lovers of God; Appearing to be godly, but not having the power of true godliness: Turn away from everything like this.
Hebrews 12: 4-10 In your fight against sin, you haven’t yet fought to the point of loosing your life blood. And you’ve forgotten the encouragement which speaks to you as to children, “My child, don’t hate the discipline of God, nor give up when you’re under God’s control: because God loves whom God disciplines, and punishes every child that is accepted by God.” So don’t get discouraged when you’re disciplined, because God is dealing with you as with children. What child doesn’t a parent discipline? But if you’re not disciplined, in which all are one who have taken part, then you’re bastards, and not legal children. Besides, our physical parents corrected us, and we respected them, so shouldn’t we instead allow ourselves to be even more under the control of God, the source of our spirits, and live? The truth is, our parents, for a short time, punished us as they thought was best for us; but God punishes us for our good, so that we might share in God’s goodness.
Jude [17-23] But remember, my loved ones, the words which were spoken by the followers of Yeshua, our Christ; How that they told you there would be people who would mock our faith in the last days, who would do whatever ungodly things they want to do. These are the ones who separate themselves from the truth, living by their physical drives, and not having the self-control of Spirit. But you, my loved ones, keep encouraging yourselves with your most holy faith, praying by the Holy Spirit. Stay in God’s love, looking forward to the mercy of Yeshua, our Christ, in order to receive everlasting life. And care for those who choose to change their actions. Save the rest with fear, pulling them out of the heat of sin; hating even the outward appearance of their sin.
[24-25] Now to the One who is able to keep you from falling into sin, and to present you with great joy, unflawed, in the presence of Christ’s victory, and to the only One with God’s wisdom, Yeshua, our Savior, be victory and greatness, authority and power, now and forever. So be it!
Women in Christian Ministry
A Journey of Faith
Authored by Sis. Kimberly M. Hartfield
Women in Christian Ministry is the culmination of my writings on women’s ministry and related topics of concern. It is a reflection of my personal journey into Christian Ministry and my search for truth in questions concerning a woman’s place in ministry, types of ministry, and whether or not she should be ordained for that purpose. It was an answer to God’s calling on my life and God’s confirmation of that calling. I hope that my journey of faith may help you in your search for truth and encourage you in your calling. This book includes samples of a Baptism, Wedding, and Funeral ceremony. God bless to all!
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- Who Is In Control Of Your Life? (agodthing.wordpress.com)
- Keeping the Marriage Bed Pure (peacefulwife.com)
- Masturbation Addiction: Affecting Both Men and Women. (prweb.com)