My Facebook friend Beverly wrote this short thought on self-worth. I really thought this was worth sharing. It’s especially relevant for those of us who were previous victims, who tend to value the opinions of others more than we should. Sometimes we value the opinion of our abusers more than we should. Sometimes others will criticize us when we finally stand up to those who abuse us. We are criticized when we stay and criticized when we go. We have to listen to our heart and do what’s right for us.
The approval of others feels good at the moment – but the obsession with it only brings pain.
Solid self-worth cannot be built on the opinions of others. In fact, it is guaranteed that if you are doing the right thing, you will be criticized by some. People have their own issues, and it’s 100% certain that you will experience the negative results of “their issues” in your encounters with them. Every person will not “click” with you and will not choose to connect and relate with you, no matter how “nice” and “giving” you are. In short, you will never experience consistent approval, and if that is the source of your self-worth, you will be chronically in the cycle of disappointment, trying harder, self-criticism, trying harder – emotional and spiritual exhaustion.
“The approval of others = self-worth” is one more false equation.
True self-worth comes from deeply knowing who you are and Whose you are – and living out the best of that. Will everyone love you, even like you? Nope. But that’s O.K. YOU know, and you can become all of the you that you were divinely designed to be.