True Self Worth

My Facebook friend Beverly wrote this short thought on self-worth. I really thought this was worth sharing.  It’s especially relevant for those of us who were previous victims, who tend to value the opinions of others more than we should.  Sometimes we value the opinion of our abusers more than we should. Sometimes others will criticize us when we finally stand up to those who abuse us.  We are criticized when we stay and criticized when we go. We have to listen to our heart and do what’s right for us.

The approval of others feels good at the moment – but the obsession with it only brings pain.

Solid self-worth cannot be built on the opinions of others. In fact, it is guaranteed that if you are doing the right thing, you will be criticized by some. People have their own issues, and it’s 100% certain that you will experience the negative results of “their issues” in your encounters with them. Every person will not “click” with you and will not choose to connect and relate with you, no matter how “nice” and “giving” you are. In short, you will never experience consistent approval, and if that is the source of your self-worth, you will be chronically in the cycle of disappointment, trying harder, self-criticism, trying harder – emotional and spiritual exhaustion.

“The approval of others = self-worth” is one more false equation.

True self-worth comes from deeply knowing who you are and Whose you are – and living out the best of that. Will everyone love you, even like you? Nope. But that’s O.K. YOU know, and you can become all of the you that you were divinely designed to be.



About mamaheartfilled

I am a mother of eight wonderfully challenging children and nine grandkids, of whom I am very proud. I am also a bi-vocational ordained evangelical minister, and a Christian Counselor. I received my B.S. degree in 2004, studying primarily in the areas of Psychology, with minors in Religion and English. I received my Masters Degree in 2009 in Psychological Counseling with an emphasis in Christian Counseling. I have endeavored to paraphrase the Bible, both Old and New Testaments, for the last ten years or so and am working on a final edit, now. It is my hope that it will be of some use in the great commission of Christ. My ministry is primarily geared toward victims of sexual and domestic violence, including victims of childhood sexual abuse, whether currently or in the past. Since I have personally experienced the healing hand of God in overcoming many of the life issues that Christians may face, I feel qualified and compelled to discuss them in a truthful and open manner, as God’s word tells us that “We shall know the truth and the truth shall set us free.” God has brought me through such diverse tribulations as sexual, physical, and mental abuse, being a victim of a drunk driving accident, spousal pornography addiction, adultery, divorce, remarriage, a very brief, though unjust, incarceration, and having experienced multiple miscarriages and various other trials. I have been asked to leave two Southern Baptist Churches, due to my being a female, ordained as a minister, and fired from a SBC sponsored Christian School (mostly white) for speaking out against racial prejudice in the Family of God. Through God’s merciful forgiveness of my own sins and inadequacies and God’s grace given to me to forgive those who have been a stumbling block to me, I have overcome many of these adversities. God’s word tells us that “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to the purposes of God." Since I have this hope, I believe that God has blessed me with the ability to confront and relate these issues to the Christian community around the world. I hope to be able to use my personal experiences as a ministry of God’s grace and in the comforting of the people of God with the truth of God's mercy. I claim II Corinthians 1: 3 & 4 as my calling, which states: “Blessed be God, the Origin of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Origin of mercies, and the God of comfort; who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in trouble, by the comfort we ourselves have been given by God.” As I have received the gift of God’s healing, I hope to be able to bring the peace beyond understanding to others with the message of God’s mercy and grace. My love for the Sovereign Lord of my life, Jesus Christ, along with my passion for writing has drawn me to explore these commonly experienced crisis issues from the perspective of my own experience in the hope that I may bring an empathetic and compassionate insight to God’s people. I am now a published author and have several books in publication, including my autobiography, "A Little Redneck Theology." The views expressed in my writings are strictly my own insights, acquired from personal experience and diligent study of the related topics and God’s word concerning them. Though I am an ordained minister, my views should not be considered authoritative. I believe that the Christian community’s ultimate authority is the guidance of the human heart by the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.
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